Trending Guide to Wedding Cake Cutting

Front cover photo by Rachel Maloney Photography

The tradition of serving cake at a wedding has been around for ages, dating back to ancient civilizations. Over the centuries, the concept has evolved from a superstitious measure to a celebratory staple. In modern times, we’ve seen other sweet substitutions—like doughnuts, pies, and macarons—but cakes remain the quintessential dessert to signify a couple’s start to a happy marriage.

That’s why the cake cutting stands out as a long-held tradition — and one that produces plenty of cute and silly photos! Keep reading to see what wedding experts say you must do to nail the cake-cutting ceremony.

Go In With a Plan

It may seem like you can simply have your cake delivered and show up with a knife at the right time, but there’s more nuance to the cake cutting than you might expect. From timing to photo angles, you’ll need to work with your wedding day team to ensure the tradition goes smoothly.

First and foremost, Jen Sulak of Weirdo Weddings recommends consulting with vendors to coordinate details for the cake cutting. “Cake cutting isn’t always included in your packaging,” she explains. “You may need to discuss with your venue, planners, and catering team about who, how, and when the cake will be cut.”

Working through these details ahead of time prevents day-of scrambling to find the proper utensils and figure out who (and when) to cut the cake. Once you’ve settled on a plan, you can focus on the next vital element: where the cake-cutting will take place.

“If possible, have your planner or coordinator display the cake and desserts on a table that is easily accessible and off the wall,” wedding photographer Rachel Maloney suggests. “This allows the photographer to photograph the cake-cutting moment from a really great angle!” In addition to your photographer and/or videographer, consider positioning in relation to guests who want a good view of the special moment.

Wedding photographer Melani Lust notes that couples should also plan how to cut their cake. “Ask your baker which tier is best to cut through,” she says. “Typically, it is the bottom tier, but it can be a different tier depending on the style of cake. Decide whether you will cut that first slice as a wedge or a box shape.” You probably don’t want your cake toppling over from an improper slice, so trust your baker’s recommendations!

Your wedding cake is essential to your big day — don’t let it fall off your planning radar! A bit of preparation will guarantee a seamless transition in your timeline and prevent potential cake disasters from spoiling the moment.

Pose For the Camera

Few wedding day photos are more iconic than the cake cutting! To snag the perfect snapshot of this meaningful moment, Loni Peterson of LP Creative Events encourages couples to get close when cutting their cake. “Snuggle up and use the knife and other utensils together,” she says. “These make for the best photos!”

In addition to posing for the camera, Lust urges couples to tell others to stay out of the photo. “So often, the venue manager comes to help and will literally hold the knife with you both and stand right next to you during the entire cake ceremony,” she explains. “The resulting photos can look very awkward and detract from the moment.”

You can also recruit your planner to keep people away while cutting the cake. If loved ones want photos with you and the cake, have them wait until you complete the cake-cutting ceremony.

Make It Your Own

While the cake-cutting ceremony is an age-old tradition, that doesn’t mean you must adhere to every “rule.” (After all, you probably don’t want to sleep with a piece under your pillow as newlyweds did centuries ago!)

“There are no rules when it comes to cake-cutting,” Maloney confirms. Maybe you want to break tradition with a bold and colorful cake, or perhaps you prefer to let your caterer cut it in the kitchen — stick to whatever feels most authentic to you and your celebration.

“Your cake-cutting doesn’t have to be a huge announcement,” Megan Breukelman of Megan & Kenneth affirms. “Some couples choose to make this a big moment, while others will do it quietly off to the side. If you’re a couple who doesn’t love attention, you can still do the cake-cutting tradition while maintaining a little bit of privacy.”

What if you want other types of sweets instead of cake? Breukelman says go for it.

“Your cake cutting doesn’t have to be cake,” she assures. “We’ve seen couples re-create the same energy as a cake-cutting moment with pizza, champagne towers, and even feeding each other donuts.”

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In other words, the cake isn’t the point. You can achieve the same joyful moment with whatever treat you fancy, so long as you appreciate it together!

Incorporating a wedding cake-cutting ceremony into your big day adds an extra special moment to cherish as newlyweds. With a bit of planning and personalization, you can ensure this tradition is seamless, memorable, and camera-friendly.

Remember: Your wedding day is an opportunity to celebrate your union — make sure your cake-cutting ceremony is as authentic and momentous as your love story!

Meghan Ely is the owner of wedding PR and wedding marketing firm OFD Consulting. Ely is a sought-after speaker, adjunct professor in the field of public relations, and a self-professed royal wedding enthusiast.