On her wedding day, she took her first step toward a lifetime of love, and she took it alone. She made a bold choice that left many wondering, ‘Why?’ Today, we invite you to step into the fierce world of a real bride, Amber, who made an empowering choice – to walk down the aisle alone on a warm October 8th afternoon, at her dreamy destination wedding within the enchanting forests of Vietnam.
Sure enough, a curious guest murmured to a companion, “Did you catch why she made the choice to go solo down the aisle?” While another asked, “Why didn’t she have a friend or family member with her?” To which another probed, “What’s the backstory?”
As Amber herself eloquently told Wed Mayhem,
“My parents are unfortunately no longer here. And I thought if they couldn’t share this moment with me, I’d like to celebrate myself, my strength, and my independence. I think that would make them very proud.”
Amber’s decision carried a profound message, a graceful tribute to her parents, and a resounding declaration of self-love. Her sentiments resonated with many modern brides who, like her, embraced the choice to walk independently, even in the presence of their family. Amber expressed, “It’s not about dismissing the significance of our loved ones, but embracing the idea that us brides don’t need anyone else to validate our journeys.”
The most notable part? In a world that is rapidly changing, it’s crucial to question traditions that might no longer hold the same meaning. Amber continued, “It also feels like a very antiquated tradition that a male persona needs to give away a female bride. I always envisioned myself as a woman who was never reliant on being “handed over” to someone because, truth be told, I ventured into independence at a young age. Many milestones, such as graduating from college or relocating abroad were achievements I attained myself. So the idea just felt very old school and patriarchal.”
She’s absolutely right; this tradition’s origins are deeply steeped in a patriarchal worldview, where women were perceived as mere property to be transferred from one male figure to another. It’s definitely a relic of a bygone era, and many women are choosing to leave it behind.
Destination weddings, like the one Amber had, often involve a smaller guest list, which can further emphasize the notion that the wedding is celebrating the love between the couple, not outdated traditions. As Amber fearlessly summarized, “Overall, the wedding is about mine and Ricardo’s love, not about some old traditions that don’t make sense anymore.”
Opting for a solitary journey down the aisle turned out to be Amber’s most empowering choice for her wedding. It’s a legacy statement that not only celebrated her independence, but also paid tribute to her own love, strength, and resilience that had brought her to this beautiful moment in her life. As this inspiring bride Amber concluded,
“This is my moment, and if my parents can’t be here to share it with me, I don’t want to share it with someone else just for the sake of this antiquated tradition. Our love stories are unique, and our journey to the altar should be, too.”